Pick Your Battles-It is the Mantra for people who don't want Battles :)

This blog is for people from every walk of life as it talks about ways to deal with the most common output of human interaction-"CONFLICT."

How many of us have conflicts atleast once a week? I do!!

Conflicts are not always negative, they have a positive twist to it too. Conflict is the connection between change and growth!

However most of the times the conflicts are negative and argumentative. Choosing your battles wisely is a much better way of life than battling out every disagreement.You needs to "Pick your battles" right so you don't wear yourself.If you pick your battles well, you can neutralize problems along the way as you address the most important issues first. Not only will picking your battles lead to a more peaceful existence, but it's also likely to strengthen your interpersonal relationships.

I recently read a book by Dr. Richard Carlson called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff..and It's All Small Stuff." According to the book "Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren't really that big a deal. We focus on little problems and concerns and blow them way out of proportion."

To be effective at "Picking your Battles" follow the following guidlines:

1) Let the small stuff go- Choose other ways of conveying your dissatisfaction with small issues other than fighting or long drawn-out discussions that lead nowhere.

2) Deal with issues as they arise- Dealing with problems immediately will prevent them from becoming huge issues in the future. This will help you effectively and politely express your feelings and concerns

3) Interact with people who are different- It helps you broaden your perspective and be less judgmental.


4) Don't take things personally- Specially in a professional environment don't take things personally. It is always effective to keep your emotions out when your are in conflict or discussion controversial subjects.

5) Treat others as you would like them to treat you- This is a common saying and we all know what it means, however most of us ignore this when there is a conflict or resistance. 

6) Don't think you are God: During a conflict one always things they know it all and have a mindset that the other person needs to serve them. This only flares the conflict as the opposite side feels demeaning. Be humble and think of helping others, this will eventually limit the number of resistance you may face.


People who are successful are not always part of winning team but they know how to get along!!!